The last day of both a year and a decade makes for an appropriate day of reflection. I’d like to think that it’s the perfect day on which to draw courage as my spiritual principle of the day. It allows me the opportunity to reflect on how courage has affected me over the past ten years, and project how necessary it will be in the coming decade.
Past Acts of Courage
- Facing facts – this has been the decade during which I finally faced facts about how the disease of addiction has influenced my life. I knew as early as my college days that I had a problem with substance abuse. Back then it was just alcohol. “Just,” as though that isn’t deadly enough. Yet it took decades for me to admit my problem, and do something about it. Sadly, during those decades, a great deal of harm was caused to people I love.
- Mental Health – I don’t know when it began. All I know is that at some point in life, I stopped using substances in an effort to boost my confidence, and began using them to self-medicate. Unfortunately, as my tolerance to my medicine grew, I needed to consume more and stronger forms of drugs. In time, all the drugs in the world would not take away the depression I was experiencing. A suicide attempt was my most desperate attempt to fix depression on my own. Only after that failed did I finally seek actual help through medicine designed to treat depression, and therapy to help work through some of my feelings and emotions.
- Healthy Relationships – never would I have imagined that a commitment to healthy relationships would require so much courage. Yet, healthy relationships require boundaries, and I had been so bad at setting healthy boundaries in the past. Boundaries that would not only keep the wrong people out of my life, but also boundaries that would help me place limits on what I would be willing to tolerate in a relationship.
- Making Amends – I had said “I’m sorry” so many times that it surely sounded like a broken record. During the waning years of this decade, I summoned the courage to go beyond the “I’m sorry” of the past, and do my best to make amends. Admitting I was wrong, and striving to correct my behavior brought new and unexpected freedom to my life. Yet, there were and are, those to whom I’ve not been given the chance to make amends. In such cases, I apply even more courage, as I strive to live a better life today. It involves letting go of the shame associated with my time in active addiction, and the harm I brought to others.
- Living Recovery – all too often, I see people walk away from recovery. They either opt for a life of continued drug abuse, or they decide that simply being abstinent from certain drugs is good enough. There is part of me that wishes I could just walk away from recovery. Stop going to meetings. Stop applying the twelve steps and spiritual principles to my life. Shoot, maybe even enjoy an occasional glass of wine with a meal. It takes courage to make recovery a part of each and every day. To admit that I am not in control, and that I never will be.
- God’s Will – seeking knowledge of God’s will for my life, and the power to carry it out takes daily courage. The courage to put my plans aside, and go wherever He leads. Whether it’s in the area of my career, personal finances, or relationships, living according to God’s will has taken courage to a whole new level.
I could go on forever. So many changes in my life. So much courage required. The important thing is not what requires courage, but rather, the Source of that courage. The recovery process has allowed me to tap into the Source of courage, God.
If the past decade had brought me nothing but an actual relationship with God, that would have been enough. However, His plan held so much more for me. A life not of guilt and shame, but of freedom and hope.
The Coming Decade
What will the coming decade require? From where I sit this morning, the coming decade will be like a shampoo bottle. You know, the one that says “lather, rinse, repeat.” If I have any hope for the coming years, it will be found in the lessons I’ve learned. I will continue to face life on life’s terms. I’ll guard my mental, spiritual, and physical health. I’ll be courageous enough to seek the knowledge of God’s will for my life, and the power to carry it out.
Have a remarkable day!