“My gratitude speaks, when I care, and when I share with others.” – The Gratitude Statement
I was recently watching a video in which the presenter was talking about the importance of the words we use to express our gratitude in different situations. He used the example from his own experience in which he and his wife had expressed their gratitude to God for their new child. “God has blessed us so wonderfully,” they would exclaim.
To most, the statement seemed to be a heartfelt expression of gratitude to God for their new child. Yet for one couple, it was the opposite. The couple was childless after years of trying to have children, only to experience a series of miscarriages, and the heartache that comes with them. To this couple, the thought of God having blessed the first couple with a child brought with it the automatic reflex response of wondering why on earth God had not blessed them too. What had they done wrong? Had they offended God? Was He punishing them for some unknown act of rebellion?
Where was their blessing?
The presenter in the video said that the encounter with this couple had changed how he approaches what he once referred to as “God’s Blessings.” Since then, he and his wife, rather than speaking of God’s blessings, speak of their own gratitude for how God helps them to be parents to their new baby. They share about how they experience God’s presence in their lives through both the good and bad times of parenting. Instead of proclaiming God’s goodness for blessing them, they refer to God’s goodness for preparing them for whatever life brings.
I appreciate the sensitivity the presenter and his wife demonstrated in their encounter with the other couple. The way that they allowed that encounter to change the way in which they described God’s role in their lives reflects the caring aspect of The Gratitude Statement. It is a lesson from which I can definitely benefit as I learn to share my recovery story with others.
As far as lives go, I have plenty for which to be grateful. It would be so easy to speak of God’s blessings in my life while sharing with fellow addicts. Yet, to do so could easily lead to resentment from those currently struggling to find things in life for which to express gratitude. Even worse, my words risk putting God in a box, or treating Him like some sort of magic genie. “Just do what I did, and God has to give you the results I got.”
Even though that would never be my intent in sharing my story, the risk of coming across that way is very real, because WORDS MATTER.
So, as I strive to express my gratitude for the new way of life I have found in recovery, I pray that my words would consist of both caring and sharing. Living in recovery does not automatically result in happy, fulfilling relationships. It prepares me for them. Nor does recovery make me successful at work. Rather, it prepares me for work, and to be a contributing member of society.
Do I believe God has blessed me? Yes! Do I believe He would prefer that I express my gratitude for His blessings in a way that is encouraging to others, and inspires them to identify the things in their lives for which to be grateful? Absolutely. When I do so, my gratitude speaks loudly.
Have a remarkable day!