Yesterday morning, just after finishing my morning routine, I went out cycling. There is a beautiful paved bike path that runs along the Arkansas River, just across from our apartment. So, that is where most of my cycling happens.
Being a creature of habit, I take the exact same route each day. Sixteen miles that take me around one hour to complete.
I have only one friend in the area who cycles, and I’ve yet to plan ahead well enough to ride with him (sorry Phillip), so I ride my bike alone.
Yesterday morning I had just passed the halfway point, and after turning around to head back south along the river, I fell in line behind a group of six cyclists who were riding together.
My plan at first was to pass them at my earliest opportunity. However, after a few minutes at the tail end of the pack, I decided to stay put. The wind was beginning to pick up out of the south, and by drafting behind them, I avoided the negative effects of the breeze.
To my amazement, not only was I not facing resistance from the wind, but it almost seemed I was being pulled along by their momentum. The continuous pedaling to which I am accustomed was replaced by a lot of coasting. A time or two I even had to tap on my breaks to avoid rear ending the rider in front of me.
These riders were obviously accustomed to each other, using different hand signals to indicate any changes in movement, or obstacles on the path. In time I began to imitate their signals, making me feel less like a freeloader, and more like a group member.
Then it happened. As we approached an area along which I generally hit my highest speeds, I felt the urge to break away from the group. I had grown weary of their cadence, so I announced myself and passed them by, pouring on strength as I powered past them. At one point I looked back to see that they were a good fifty yards behind me. I felt that familiar freedom of independence once again!
Then it happened. I came to a wide open spot where the southerly breeze sweeps across the river and hits southbound cyclists head on. Though I shifted gears to compensate for the change, my efforts were not sufficient for the challenge brought by that wind. My legs burned as my speed slowed rapidly.
By the time I had reached a windbreak created by the trees of a small bald eagle preserve that is right across from our apartments, my speed had slowed significantly. I watched, humbled, as the group of cyclists I had so easily passed just minutes earlier rode past me. There was no catching them this time. I was left on my own.
I finished the last mile of my ride alone. When I checked the app I use to monitor my cycling, I was amazed to see that my average speed was a crushing 16.7 miles per hour! It was a new record. A speed that was three tenths of a mile per hour faster than my previous best.
That record had been on a day when the wind began blowing from the north just after I had made my turn. So it had almost been like cheating. Usually, when facing a southerly breeze, I’m lucky to hit a 15.5 mph average speed.
When I shared my riding experience with Amanda, I told her that it had served as a great reminder about teamwork. I told her that I was sure it would be the topic of my morning writing very soon. So, when I drew “surrender” as my spiritual principle for the day, I knew right away what I would write.
There is an oft used expression used in Narcotics Anonymous. “Never alone, never again” is a motto used to describe the teamwork and fellowship experienced by addicts seeking recovery in the NA program.
Addiction is a disease that leads an addict into isolation. In my case, I isolated myself by pushing family and friends away so they would not witness my increasingly erratic behavior. I had secrets to keep. Lies to create and nurture. A life so separate from their’s that distance was a must. Isolation was inevitable.
So, it is no wonder that when I came into the rooms of NA, I needed to be reminded that I was in a safe place. I needed to learn how to interact openly and honestly with others in the program. I had to overcome my irrational fears that someone in the rooms had been sent specifically to spy on me and my activities. (Yes, I was actually convinced that was the case for a time.)
I still struggle with the tendency to isolate myself. As my sponsor can attest, simply picking up the telephone and calling him or other members can be a huge challenge for me. It is just one area in which I surrender my fears, and practice trusting my friends.
Then there are those times when I try to convince myself that I’ve got this whole thing beat. Like breaking away from the pack of riders yesterday, I convince myself that progress can be made more efficiently on my own. The voice of my diseased thinking wants me to isolate. It wants to convince me that I can go it alone. “Who needs NA?”
Yesterday’s ride is a reminder that I need NA. I need to stay with the winning team. I need to continue in my program of recovery without wavering. I need to work the steps, live by principles, call my sponsor, and enjoy being part of something bigger than myself.
The reality is that I only found the rooms of Narcotics Anonymous a little over two years ago. At my age, two years is a relatively short amount of time. Yet in these past two years I have grown more and accomplished more than I could ever have imagined.
Yes, I still struggle. Yes, my character defects are still alive and well. The difference is that today I am part of a winning team. A team that, as with yesterday’s ride, will help me crush the old limitations of my past. A team on which an addict, any addict, can stop using drugs, lose the desire to use, and find a new way to live.
Have a remarkable day!